Sunday, August 23, 2009

How Is He Doing?


The million dollar question, with no ready answer. Dinkeneh is doing better than the first day, but not great over all. This kind of sums it up (minus the "shut up" bit):



Seriously. It's actually sort of humorous. He runs around after her, waits until she touches something, then leaps in to snatch it back while shouting, seagull style, "Mine! Mine! Mine! Mine!" We have seen a bit of progress. Now, when we talk about sharing, he will place a toy in front of her and stand up, clap for himself, and then snatch it back with a defiant "Mine!" But hey, progress is progress.

Other than the sharing difficulties, he's handling things okay. He still doesn't want to share lap space with Saye, and has no interest in holding her, hugging her, or otherwise interacting with her. He will occasionally giggle when he sees her smiling, so I think there's light at the end of the tunnel. It will just take time. A lot of people have suggested making sure we get some quality one-on-one time with D whenever we can. The problem we're having is that Saye won't go to sleep on her own. So she's awake the whole time that he's awake, and she doesn't like to be put down. Tricky, tricky. Still working on that one.

The first few nights we were home, Dinkeneh woke up crying in the middle of the night, babbling about planes and bye-byes. Clearly a lot of anxiety over us having left for two weeks, which we expected, even though we did try to prep him. So we've talked a lot about "no more planes," "no more bye-byes," and "mama dada and Dinkeneh are home." It seems to be helping, since he slept through the night the past two nights. Knock on wood.

Some shots of D post-brotherhood:




This about sums it up:

7 comments:

TJRF said...

:) Thank you, I needed that laugh! Hoping to hear from you soon....

Cindy said...

Sweet big brother : )
It is a tough gig in the beginning but it gets better every day!

I love that little sister changes direction to follow him...ahhhh..makes me smile.

Julie said...

Oh my cuteness. I'd like to talk to you on the phone soon if you don't mind. I miss you, and was so happy we were there at the same time.

Jess said...

He'll get there:)

Heatherbean said...

Oh, that photo of them in the tub is TOO CUTE. they are both so beautiful! The sharing takes time. Charlie has started just shoving Mal out of the way or snatching toys away from her. It happens, but it gets better. Pretty soon he will be doing anything it takes to make her laugh.

Kathrin said...

Poor baby. Too funny though about the mine part.

Rachel said...

The top photo is priceless. I'm having heart palpitations wondering how Gabriel will deal with his little sister... it's BEEN SO LONG that he's been at the center of the hurricane we call our family:-) By the time Gabriel gets around to learning the ropes, I have a feeling big bro D will be able to give him all kinds of pointers!!!