Thursday, September 10, 2009

The Pox

I have so been waiting to use that title. Seriously.

Sisaye had an unfortunate encounter with "The Pox," otherwise known as the chicken pox, while in the care center. And even more unfortunately, I believe there was some picking at the spots on her face, leaving her with some rather serious scarring around the eyes. This is her the second day we met:


And this is her a few days ago:


So things are improving, but I still think we're going to see some hangers-on in the form of scars, namely the one over her right eyebrow and several in between her eyes. I half-jokingly chatted with a friend about that microdermabrasiony thing. How young can you do that, anyway? I kid (sort-of).

Of course, we all collect scars large and small along the way. It's what gives us character. I have a chicken pox scar in the middle of my forehead, as a matter of fact. It's never really bothered me. But I am wondering at what point a parent tries to correct something like this. On the one hand, it's purely cosmetic. On the other hand, I'd hate for it to be a source of trauma or self-consciousness for her later in life, especially if there's something relatively simple we can do now to lessen their impact.

So...anyone have any thoughts on this one? Including telling me to shut my trap and worry about the important things in life?

11 comments:

Life in the Bend said...

I would probably obsess too, but you can probably take your cues from Saye. If the scars seem to bother her someday, then I don't think you'd be remiss in pursuing corrective treatment.

As a side note, they really don't look that severe to me - even in person. I bet you, as her mom, are noticing them far more than anyone else. They'll also probably fade a lot more in the next few months. If you think about it, pretty much everyone our generation and older has had chicken pox; most of us picked at some of them, and you see very, very few people with really severely noticeable scars. I have a couple on my forehead too, but even Paul hadn't noticed them until I pointed them out.

Jess said...

I don't have any advice on "fixing" things like scars on kids. I think it's kind of up to you, you're her mom:)

What I did want to say was that when Em first came home (she was 6mos) she had lots of "scars" on her hands and especially on her feet. Our pediatrician advised us that they would be permanent scars. But they are all gone now! I don't remember when but there is not at trace of a single scar. Since then I've noticed if Em gets a bad scrape, like from falling off her bike, sometimes it will heal quickly and others it developes into a scar like thing, but after a few months it's gone...

I don't know. just another whacko mom:)

AnnMarie & Nick said...

LOL, first of all I can's see anything from the pictures. Second I don't have advice for fixing it. Geremu had a VERY large scar next to his right eye when he first came home and the scar is much less noticable as time passes because the skin has gotten darker perhaps it will get better has time passes. That being said, Geremu has some funky eyebrows that I can't wait to wax, what age does a kid need to be to take care of that?

Anonymous said...

You don't know me but I'm regular reader. What can I say I'm adicted to your blog. I even showed people at my job your post where D is asking his dad for hug. My coworkers thought I know you and your family in person :)

I don't know if you take advice from a stranger but if I was in your place I will get Saye's scar removed. Kids wear braces to fix their teeth so why not face. Your daughter is beautiful the way she is but people can be cruel. You probable know this, Pox scar is common in Ethio but people don't have the means to correct them.

Mimi

Cindy said...

Mihiret's chickenpox scars were pretty prominent when we picked her up. She had had it before arriving at the care center so we saw them at LEAST 4 months after they had happened. At this point there is only one that you can see at all and it is just a little darker in color then the rest of her skin. Hopefully in time Sisaye's will also fade away. HTH!

Cameron and Megan said...

I used this stuff called Mederma on a scar, and I think it helped (it is a cream you put on scars). I think they make stuff called Mederma for Kids too. But maybe ask your doc, he may know of something better for pox scars!
She is beautiful!

Anonymous said...

Hi I too (like Mimi) am addicted to your blog. When we picked up our son (aged 9 months) he was covered in chicken pox and by the time we were to fly home they were dried and scabby. He was scarred for about 6 months but now he has clear lovely skin with only 1 scar on the side of his nose. I believe that in time Sayes scars will fade.

Rachel said...

I have a friend whose mother had her ears pinned back when she was about six. When she told me the story in college, I couldn't help thinking it made her mother seem a little overbearing. But ya know, she has pretty ears and she thanks her mother to this day:-) So who's to say?

Bonnie said...

Scars do fade over time. Our B has horrible scars from Mollosculum and some of them might not fade enough and we will want to take care of them. (they are all over her face and neck, but happily almost 6 months out and 90% of them are much better) Our dermatologist said to give them at least 6-9 months and then we will see. The treatment is to inject the scars with steriods to shrink them. Sounds horrible but our teen ages son is having it done now (for something similiar) and he said it doesn't hurt.

Heather said...

Brian just looked over my shoulder and asked, "Is that the little baby girl we saw when we were in Ethiopia? Looks like she's all healed up!" She is so itty bitty that any remaining scars will hardly be recognizable by the time she's grown. Shea had the chicken pox too and boy did he have some seriously huge pox on his forehead. They're healing and fading fast.

Sarah said...

I second the Mederma for kids.